Way Corp group(s) I was in
14th
About Me
Married to Bonnie Rabideau, 8th Corps.
Daughter Renata, born 1992
Exchange Student Daughter Hsuan-Hui, (Pronounced Shun Whey), born 1991 in Taiwan
(She thought she was going to California, but West Coast also includes ALASKA!)
My Interests
bonsai, orchids. I usher at our local theater and volunteer at a large number of Gardening community functions and state fairs for the bonsai displays/ I have more than 300 trees or prospective trees and 60+ orchids, moslty miniatures mounted on cork bark and cottonwood bark. FInally got a greenhouse addition to my house this last year.
Employment or Career
FedEx instructor, hired 1986. Landscaping business, floral business. I teach bonsai throughout the state and write articles about bonsai in the far north for different publications. I travel around the country quite a bit for work, mostly the West Coast and Memphis, but I got to go to Japan this year and I am hoping to get to China next year.
Comments
Life IS balancing out and you were right, the first 2-3 months were THE worst part. I recall thinking I wouldn't wish it on an enemy but it's manageable now and not as intense at 4+ mo's...I'm working now on moving forward without feeling I'm forsaking the memory of the person...I can see myself coming to acceptance, which is the idea :)
Death of someone precious is one of the most difficult issues I've ever dealt with - by FAR more difficult than anything associated with TWI. I've been committed to dealing with it rather than sidestepping it because I want nothing bitter left in me. No leftovers. I'm reading "Recovering from the Losses in Life" by H. Norman Wright which has proven to be good help.
Because it's painful & almost taboo...there's very little genuine knowledge & willingness re; dealing with death among people but those who have it and share it are invaluable.
I've had opportunities to help others with new losses since...there's nothing anyone can do to take it away but being present, caring & listening helps. The bereaved often need to sort things out so need a patient listener. The people who just asked how I was or who said or wrote "love you" or who hugged at the right time or who kept me in good company were healing...those who shared their own experience as you did made a huge impact so I didn't feel I was the only one who ever felt so bad. It was sure a perfect time for me to hook back up with old friends and cronies. God knew all and made it as easy for me as possible. Thank you Paul. You are a man among men and have my respect.
Spring is more welcomed this year than any other. In April I go to NJ for my 30th HS reunion. By then it will be a great time to travel a little again. I'm determined to find some awesome dress and slink about in fun & style :)
No need to worry about us bringing too many shoes. My sister Rose and I are both very practical types. When we are on vacation, we usually bring tennis shoes and hiking boots, one pair each. Maybe extra shoelaces. Shy Minnesota farm gals like us would never buy attractive shoes that would draw attention to us. I will let you know when we are up that way. With the below zero temperatures we have had in recent weeks, we haven't discussed any trips north. Our next trip is probably Albuquerque, NM in mid March. We'll dream of and maybe plan our Alaska trip in July. Rose was in Alaska several years ago while she was in dental school doing some volunteer work. She loved it up there. Hiked every chance she got.
I drool over the pictures, make grandiose plans and then look at my budget, get a reality check (remembering that by July I will be exhausted if I plant too much ) and buy wholesale. Mark's turned into a gardener too, thank God, or else the whole thing would go to weeds by July 4.
Right now I am dreaming of roses, it has been a while since I had a rose garden. (the Japanese Beetle Invasion of 2002, don't ask, the carnage is too graphic)
I love your pictures, you folks look so happy and your daughter(s) are beautiful. I love this site, I love that we can connect and it doesn't matter if we're "in or out", just that we all experinced something that only 7,000 other people did and yet each corp is unique because of the mix of people.
I love you and sometime soon, I'll share some of my favorite Paul memories and see if my memory still serves me well.
Jacqueline
Finally, one beautiful August day I walked out my door to that intoxicating fragrance and what did I see? The biggest doe I had ever seen munching delicately on my lillies. I managed to scare her off and only had one lilly intact to show at fair.
Now, everytime I cut someones hair, I pitch the hair out on my garden. The smell of humankind seems to keep them out of my garden.
Right now it seems like I am in Alaska, we had snow and ice for the last day and we have had some -0 days and nights. Last week -6, this week -0 and Monday expecting a 30 degree warm up. 2 weeks ago it was almost 50! You know Ohio, always changing.
Good writing to you Paul,
Love, Jacqueline
I have been the Garden Club president for 4 years and Champaign County Rose Queen once so I can die a happy woman.
I have some wonderful memories of putting together the Way Corps weddings our first year and hanging out with you was a highlight of my time a WayWorld. I loved hearing from you and am so glad I found this site. Love to you and Bonnie.
Mark sends his heartfelt hello too,
Jacqueline
I remember the nail. I am scarred for life from it. I have recurrent nightmares about it and I haven't had a decent night's sleep since that day that I viewed it. Lol Seriously though what i remember most is you and your big heart. I miss you. Give my love to Bonnie.
Love, Maria Hines
PS If you ever need a vacation from Alaske and all that beauty, you and bonnie can come visit me in the vacation capital of the Midwest, Fort Wayne, In .
It would have been great to see you. So how is Alaska? So you went to Japan. It's a beautiful country and I often wonder what God was thinking about when he arrayed that landscape. Our planet is not boring. I always remember your tatoo, on one of your feet or ankles right? Was it a butterfly, La Mariposa? You know I am studying Espanol so soon I wil be Bi-Lingual.
Love,
Bonnie Kim
Love,
Joy
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